Valentine’s Day. February 14. No other day has the power to equally both depress and illicit the warm fuzzies. You’ve had good ones, you’ve had bad ones.Typically the outcome of the day is hugely based on our partners actions(or lack there of).
We love a good cliche, and with that being said; in love you gotta love yourself first. The best Valentine’s gift you can give to yourself, is self love. Only you know how to love yourself, and if you don’t it’s time you start!
So if you find yourself on the receiving end of a loveless relationship with yourself, the best Valentine gift you can give yourself is love. We all speak different love languages, and there are zero questions to ask or mysteries to solve when doing something loving for yourself.
Speaking your own love language
I’m sure that if you are a reader of this site, just like us, you are very familiar with the 5 love languages. If you never heard of them or can’t quite remember here is a quick rundown.
- quality time
- words of affirmation
- gifts
- acts of service
- physical touch
Most of us are a combination of all 5 but with a gravitation to 1 or 2 of them. So with that being said, how can you treat yourself this valentines day?
Quality time
So if quality time is your love language, when was the last time you spent some good quality time with yourself? Even if you light up in social situations, everyone needs some one on one time with themself.
Do you find yourself needing to be with others all the time? It might be really beneficial to go against that programming and spend some alone time. Sit and meditate on what is that makes you feel uncomfortable without the distractions of others. For many it’s easy to run from our thoughts when are constantly in the presence of others. When we resist having to be alone with our own thoughts, how can we ever heal and remove blocks?
Are you constantly having to hold it down for others? Kids, husbands, wives, friends, co-workers, and not a spare moment to just be? If this is you, then you more than anyone needs to spend some quality time alone.
Words of Affirmation
It’s time to take some personal inventory. The best gift for you this year is to sit down and start jotting down achievements, accomplishments, and positive attributes. Give yourself the accolades you deserve. Write them in your journal. Put them on your vision board. Make post its. Say them out loud and mean it.
Gifts
A wise woman once said “I can buy myself flowers”. Miley Cyrus is that woman. Flowers have forever been a symbol of love and affection. They look pretty, they smell good, they make you feel good, but do they smell any different if buy them yourself? We think they do.
Pull a Miley and go buy yourself your favorite flowers. Buy your favorite candy. Get on Amazon and pick something off of your wishlist. Take yourself to Target and let yourself pick out something, or some things. Treat yourself to something. You don’t have to go overboard or beyond your means. Find something that fits your budget and show yourself how much you mean to you.
Acts of Service
We all have something that we need to do and haven’t gotten to it yet. Sit down with your to-do list and pick one or two things that have really been needing to be done. The sense of accomplishment and the relief that will follow is such a great gift.
Physical touch
Did someone say massage? A massage isn’t just a pampering splurge, it’s beneficial for mind body and spirit. It improves circulation, reduces muscle tension, and reduces those stress hormones that love to party in our being.
Massage isn’t your thing? Book yourself pedicure! You’re actually killing to birds with one stone with this Valentine gift. Massage AND you get your toes detailed? That’s a major W.
Time to plan
How are you going treat yourself this year? If you really want to blow yourself away this year treat yourself to two, three, four, or ALL of the languages! Whatever your love language is, this year you are going to give yourself the best Valentine’s Day gift ever… an act(or more) of self love and self care.